Taking Off My Wedding Band

my rings

I can no longer wear it.  It is not that I do not love it.  But it just keeps slipping off of my finger.  I finally had to take off my fat self wedding band.

As you can see in this picture I have 4 wedding bands.  The middle one is my original wedding band.  I weighed 148 lbs. when we got married 40 years ago.  The one directly behind it is my wedding band when I gained weight during my child bearing years.  The one to my left is my mother’s ring which I used to wear (for a very short few months) during my first major weight loss.  And the one on the right is the band I have been wearing for the last 20 years.

I have very few pieces of jewelry.  The ones I do have, John  bought  for me through the years.  But pieces of jewelry I always wear are my earrings, wedding band and my necklace holding my other wedding rings.   The only time I have ever taken this necklace off is when I wear other necklaces, which is extremely rare.

Today, I put on for the first time in 20 years, my original wedding band.  It is very exciting to me to know that I am close to the weight I was when I got married.  I wish I had the engagement ring that went with it.  It came as a set with my wedding band.  It was made by Orange Blossom.  I remember so well in college going through the bridal magazines looking for my favorite ring.  I loved that ring.  I tore the ad out of the magazine and gave it to John and said “that is the engagement ring I want”.  And he was so sweet to listen to me.  (Actually I was quite demanding back then and thank God John overlooked that slight flaw).

And then that beautiful ring got stolen.  I lost weight after we got married and was sporting 134 pounds.  My ring was too big on me and I kept it in a special box.  We went out of town, box in tow, and stayed at a motel.  I did not even notice the ring was gone until we got home.  Thank God it was insured.  I wish I had used that money to replace that beautiful ring.  But  I had been wanting a dishwasher.  And you guessed it.  I bought a dishwasher with the insurance money.  How do you spell the word STUPID!

I am still going to wear my necklace with my mom’s wedding ring and my past fat self wedding ring.  I never want to forget my past fat life.  I never want to go back there.  My mom’s ring is so special to me that I want to keep it on my necklace.  It does fit me but is just a bit snug.  After all my mom weighed only 105 pounds.  And I know I will never weigh that.  So for right now It will continue to have a special place on my necklace right next to my past fat self ring.