I have been thinking a lot lately on certain word choices. “I WILL”. “I CAN’T”. “I WON’T”. So let’s think about those words. And I will take them in reverse order.
“I WON’T”. Now anyone that knows me knows that I am a scaredy cat. I am afraid of many things. You might say I am paranoid. I fear for my safety and I fear for everyone I love’s safety. So I take precautions ALL THE TIME. I won’t ride my bike without a helmet. I will not get in a car without wearing a seat belt. I won’t bungee jump off of a cliff nor will I parachute out of an airplane. I will not dive off of a cliff nor will I go in a hot air balloon. I can do all of these things. I just WON’T.
Now I CAN’T be an WNBA Basketball player. It is not because of lack of desire – it is because I CAN’T. I have no basketball skills nor the height. I CAN’T be a supermodel not because I don’t want to but more because I am 5 foot 3 inches and supermodels are a bit taller and a bit younger. I CAN’T be an engineer, lawyer or doctor not because I am not smart – I am just not smart in engineering, doctor or lawyer skills. I honestly CAN’T do any of these things not that I don’t want to. I just CAN’T.
What drives me nuts are excuses. I hate it at my Weight Watcher meetings when I hear someone whining about how they CAN’T stay away from cookies. And our fearless Weight Watcher leader suggests to get the cookies out of the house. And the whining person says “I CAN’T because my son will have a fit. He likes my cookies”. So really this whining person is saying she WON’T give up her cookies. She can get rid of her cookies but she is using her son as an excuse to eat the cookies. Can we call a spade a spade here? You like cookies and ‘WON’T” make any changes to help yourself not eat them. So wouldn’t it be better just to say – I like my cookies and I WON’T change.
Another person was whining about how she could not find the time to get in exercise. I truly understand the time crunch. Jillian Michaels had a great come back to that excuse. She said if you had cancer and had to go have chemo for an hour a day – you would find the time. Why is being good to yourself and your health not as important? So this person is saying “I WON’T” exercise. It is not because she couldn’t. She just chose not to.
“I WILL” is one of my favorite phrases. I will be the best person I can be. I will try harder. I will finish. I will continue my weight loss journey. I will strive harder. I will exercise. I will exercise harder. I will keep a food diary. I will eat healthy foods. I will drink water and green tea until I float away. I will be good to myself. I will eat healthy foods. I will enjoy my life. I will be thankful for all that I have achieved. Does it matter if I am perfect in everything? Absolutely not!
I am still suffering from my bone spur on my achilles tendon so I CAN’T run. (Doctor’s orders). My long walks are limited but I CAN walk on a limited basis. But what I have been doing is lifting weights and enjoying it. I have been bike riding and swimming. I CAN DO THIS! I have been eating super healthy. I have cut all white starches and sugar out of my diet. Have I cut them out completely? On a very rare occasion I will eat a starch but that will not undo all the the work I have achieved. I WILL DO THIS! And I WON’T give up. This is my life long journey and I am loving this journey.